Comments on: Phwoar eyes only

By: about a boy

about a boy — Thu, 19 Jul 2007 18:38:00 +0000

i dont see any problem with looking at other guys. whether you are with your boy or not. anything more than that is another question…

By: Jessica

Jessica — Tue, 17 Jul 2007 05:11:00 +0000

I’m new to your blog. So please forgive me if I’ve missed something.

I’m a woman who does the same thing. Both women and men appeal to me and I love that I can get into people watching when I’m with someone. I like to make it something we both get into (i.e. what do you think of her or him? wouldn’t he or she be fun to play with, etc…). It’s just a game, so there’s no need to worry. Maybe your s.o.’s afraid you find other people worth paying attention instead of focusing on him.

I think you should find out why it bothers him (has someone cheated in a past relationship or does he feel unnoticed?) and explain why your actions are not a threat to your relationship. However, if this continues to hurt him, you should make an effort to stop [if you feel your relationship is worth it]. After all, no one wants to diminish their partner’s feelings of self-worth.

By: Emile J. Walters

Emile J. Walters — Mon, 16 Jul 2007 14:06:00 +0000

Perhaps you should throw in the occasional comment on a beautiful woman. In doing so you emphasize that the exercise is in esthetics and not in (gay) lust.

By: crimean

crimean — Sat, 14 Jul 2007 20:04:00 +0000

while i agree with you, i have to confess – it would make me feel uncomfortable if my guy constantly looked at other guys and commented at how hot they were, when we are together. this comes probably from a certain degree of personal complexes. and maybe your guy has them too.

i think you can look at other guys, but take your boyfriend’s feelings into consideration too

By: indymetro

indymetro — Fri, 13 Jul 2007 21:02:00 +0000

Joe,

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you noticing other guys. It’s called being a male. It doesn’t stop when you’re in a relationship, and it has nothing to do with your love for your partner.

My partner was uncomfortable at first talking about noticing other guys, but he’s learned that it is fine, and it’s not a threat to our relationship.

I find it hard to believe that your partner doesn’t notice other guys. Maybe he’s just uncomfortable admitting it.

And of course Linda wouldn’t understand. She’s a woman. Women don’t operate like that.

Perhaps your partner needs time and reassurance that looking at guys is normal.

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