It’s only just occurred to me that I’ve become a total ‘top’, at least in my current relationship anyway. Which is weird, because I used to consider myself to the ‘passive’ side of versatile. With my last serious boyfriend I was a full-time ‘bottom’ because the guy wouldn’t take a finger, let alone my cock, but I was happy with that, getting mine – and probably someone else’s – full quota of arse-pounding!
Now I wouldn’t have admitted it at the time, but I was definitely the passive one in that relationship – in the bedroom; out of the bedroom; in every room. So does it follow that your choice of sexual role is dependent on the balance of power, rather than a hard-wired preference? I can see that Rich is more passive than my ex – although not in every sense – making our relationship more equal, and probably more complex. Rich hasn’t always been the receiver – and I still take it up the bum every now and then, to keep my hand in, or at least his cock in – and right at the beginning, more often than not, it was me with my legs up over his shoulders, but this quickly reversed.
As for all the gay sex in between, it’s quite an assortment of positions, but I’ve usually ended up with a view of the ceiling or a taste of the pillow. So I guess what I’ve always thought about myself is true, but now I’m having fun leveling the playing field a bit and making up for lost time.
Fucker becomes the fuckee
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always be “open” to the possibilities. life is too short to not try every which way you can.
enjoy it!
*sorry, first comment read like crap! LOL
I think you are right, in my exerience extraordinary domiant and successful people in real life are quite off passive bottoms (or agressive bottoms)
whilst peopl who are quite passive in life are quite dominant in bed too
so how does it feel to flip it up, i mean is the satisfaction level more or less
In my last relationship, I was the bottom, bcos as in yours, he wouldn’t dream of taking my thick guy. Then, I became the total top. Recently, I’ve been single… and am generally versatile. BUTT, I’ve been the fuckee of late. I think it’s great that we are able to “switch” our preferences based on mood and desire. I’m glad that you’re getting a chance to view the scratches on the ceiling. And doesn’t the pillow taste yummy?
Hooray (or Hurrah, as you guys say in the U.K.) for diversity.
Flip it, love it, accept it. And if you can’t, lube it…it will go in eventually.
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