http://heartgaysex.com/2009/07/through-the-looking-glass/ Gay blog about sex, love, men and life Sun, 02 May 2010 21:13:50 +0000 hourly 1 http://heartgaysex.com/2009/07/through-the-looking-glass/comment-page-1/#comment-2605 mark Sat, 01 Aug 2009 05:20:42 +0000 http://heartgaysex.com/?p=436#comment-2605 Glad you managed to unload with the groom. You mentioned this being the only group in your life that didn't know. I understand where you're coming from about enjoying the physical closeness that comes from just being mates and not wanting to sacrifice that by coming out. For some reason, straight males often forget that we don't feel the need to shag every man in range and their behaviour changes once they know. Some of my mates haven't changed at all - though that may be due to them enjoying a ride on the wild side every now and then. All up though - letting them know will allow you to just be yourself without the need to concoct stories or lie. And hey - you will always have gay mates who you can rough and tumble with if you need to. Glad you managed to unload with the groom. You mentioned this being the only group in your life that didn’t know. I understand where you’re coming from about enjoying the physical closeness that comes from just being mates and not wanting to sacrifice that by coming out. For some reason, straight males often forget that we don’t feel the need to shag every man in range and their behaviour changes once they know. Some of my mates haven’t changed at all – though that may be due to them enjoying a ride on the wild side every now and then. All up though – letting them know will allow you to just be yourself without the need to concoct stories or lie. And hey – you will always have gay mates who you can rough and tumble with if you need to.

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